Genesis 24:37 “And my master made me swear an oath, and said, ‘You must not get a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, in whose land I live.
The three types of black women & why black men don’t date black women.
This has been a research project for over the past 60 days.
The three types of black women are as follows:
(1) The intelligent & affluent
(2) Those striving for intelligence, entreprenuerialism & affluence
(3) The ignorant ghetto baby making women that make a living off welfare by having babies, just to make a buck when they have no skills or talents.
In the first group we can put such great black women as Michelle Obama, Condelleza rice, Kamila Harris, Opray Winfrey a several others. These women don’t need to dress tight to show a body because they have brains and its their brains that makes a man attracted to them.
In the second group you can go through out your community and find a few hard working African American striving for intelligence, entreprenuerialism & affluence. These women, if the are single are hard to find but generally they are entreprenuers & those working on graduate degrees. These women also tend not to dress tight to show a body because they have brains and its their brains that makes a man attracted to them.
The final group, the ignorant ghetto baby making women, who are always looking for a surgar daddy can be found masquerading in churches, bars, on the street corners, sitting in the welfare offices around the nation, those pretending to be studying the bible. This group must dress tight because they don’t have any brians and the only way to catche a man is through a tight fitting skirt, pants of fraud (i.e. Kimberly Louise Bateman).
This third group is the group that dominates by numbers in the African American community nationally and this is also the group/reason black men don’t date black women (i.e. Kimberly Louise Bateman).
Now don’t take my word for it just look at super stars like Kobe Bryant, Tiger woods, Lamar Odom, Wesley Snipes and countless other successful black men and those striving to be successful black men.
Again this third group is the group that dominates by numbers in the African American community nationally and this is also the group/reason black men don’t date black women.
Again listed below are the top 10 out of 50 reasons why Black men find it hard to date Black women:
1. Black women make black men feel under appreciated, unwarranted and irresponsible and regressive.
2. Black women are too aggressive and no longer patient in waiting on the pursuit of a man.
3. Black women are strong headed, too independent which presents great challenges in relationships.
4. Black women are masculine in that they are controlling and like to run the relationship.
5. Black women expect too much. They are gold diggers who will not look twice at a blue collar black man.
6. Black women are hot headed and have bad attitudes.
7. Black women stop caring about their appearance after a certain age.
8. Black women are not as sexually open as other races, especially in regards to oral sex.
9. Black women’s tolerance is far too low; they are no longer empathetic to the black man’s struggle in white America.
10. Black women do not cater to their men.
Unlike black women who struggle against the current of the apparent man shortage, searching for eligible candidates is not an arduous task for black men, and never has been. Studies show that for every available man, there are at least seven single, willing and able Black women who are ready to be signed, sealed and delivered to the first derivable and desirable bachelor who crosses their path. Black men can just about have their pick when it comes to choices in the dating arena. Not to mention, online dating in the last 5 years has even widened their circle of choices to national and international possibilities. Still, fewer and fewer are choosing to date black women.
When observing the condition of our intimate interaction, African Americans are no longer interested in courting, dating or harvesting the patience essential in the process of selecting the appropriate partner for our lives. To piggy back off of that point, many of us men especially – in the African American community are slowly becoming more and more apathetic to concepts of relationships and marriage, let alone entertaining courtships with someone with the same color skin. Percentages of Black men and women dating outside their races have increased significantly over the last decade. More so now than ever, it has become more common to see a Black man with a white woman (or non-African American) on his arm. Though black women are no longer sitting around waiting on her black savior to come to his senses, as they have also begun testing the waters of alternative nationalities, the reasons as to why successful black men are not choosing black women once they reached the top remains a mystery. What is it about black women that compel black men to choose differently when it comes to dating?
As dating preferences should no longer be relevant in this day and time, conversations shared between men and women indicate that we as a race are puzzled to some degree as to why we are no longer interested in each other. Have we become bored? Is the sex more engaging with women who are not black? Are we intimidated by women who can take care of themselves and/or are we turned off by women who hold a strong sense of independence? Or is it something as simple as, interracial relationships provide for more amusing discussion over candlelight dinners or vacations to exotic resorts? Are we no longer going against the grain and finally succumbing to the innate intrigue of gravitating towards and attaining something that is different? Or are we running from self hatred that is mirrored in the eyes of our black women?
The list of possibilities in our search for understanding can go on forever. Thus, I conducted surveys with 5 African American males in efforts to dispel some of the negative myths created by Black women, and possibly gain true insight as to the lack of intimate camaraderie we have with them. The objective is to illustrate issues relating to our interaction or lack thereof – with black women, and not necessarily what white women do for black men that black women don’t.
Amid sharing these ten reasons with several Black women, some agreed and were thankful for having heard the truth in answers that came from the mouths of men themselves, rather than the resentful loose-lipped, bitter and angry women who probably hold valid reasons for their singleness, which may have nothing at all to do with race. Though society may no longer flinch at the sight of a black man with a white woman, it is apparent that some women are still scarred by the neglect and oversight imparted by their counterparts.
Perhaps the problem really boils down to the fact that we no longer listen to one another, the fact that Marterialism Has Become The New God Black Women Serve (i.e. having thangs).
Throughout the bible god constantly tells many of his prophets not tio take a wife of a certain tribe. This is still relevant today with the three different kinds of black women. And since there are more ignorant black women than there are intellegent black women as mentioned in groups one and two, the field for successful blackmen or those striving to be, in terms of dating black women is a zero.
Dialogue must take place to gain better understanding of the pain that resides on both sides of the gender fence. There is large ground to be covered in the restoring of our relationships with one another if we are to preserve our people. We as humans have every right to exercise our preferences; however, we should really begin to stop and think about “the browning of our nation,” as interracial children are being born every day. We are already losing the race in different aspects of society. The least we can do is work harder at congregating in love as man and woman. We should ponder if love really conquers all; even when we are on the verge of becoming an endangered species. It is, however, harshly possible that we may never be able to come together in harmonious attempts to survive as a race.
